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Ave et vale, Mackenzie

When I left that appointment, she was about 8, a shy little girl with dark hair and a goofy grin with big front teeth. When I took her older sister to Philmont, she was about 11, growing tall, exchanging the shy, goofy look for the sullen withdrawal favored by those entering middle school. I last saw her when she was about 13, still trying to figure out how to emerge from her middle child position. Since that time, she has grown up, found her place, and achieved much. 21 years old, a senior at Butler, she stood no longer in her sister's shadow.

But now comes news to me that she was in a terrible accident Saturday. She lost control of her car on the ice of her hometown, spun into another lane and was broadsided by a pickup truck. She was airlifted to a hospital (one of the best), but never regained consciousness. She died that night. I can only imagine the devastation visited upon her parents and sister and brother.

And I am glad that I'm not doing her funeral. Not merely because it would be a tough funeral to do. I've had tough funerals. It's just that when I last had any doings with her family, they had reached a point where God and Church were all but excised from their lives. When I was their pastor, all those years ago, we were together in one of the most dysfunctional congregations I have ever pastored. Beating up clergy and abusing fellow members was the order of the day. Her parents were trying their best to figure out the church dance, to fit in, follow God, and raise their children right. That congregation's behavior drove them away. The last time we spoke about anything religious, they said, very firmly, that they were "Unchurched."

If I were speaking at her funeral, I could tell of her beauty, her achievements, even (with some help) her character as she has matured. All of that is good, but no comfort. It will not bring her back, and only heightens the sense of loss.

I would speak of her spiritual attachments, but I know nothing of them. And even if I did, how could I preach the gospel to her parents, who don't want anything the Church has to offer? How can I tell them of God's peace at this terrible moment of their lives, when the offer of God's peace is associated in their eyes with the crazy behavior of a demonic church? I would appear to them a charlatan, selling snake oil at their baby's graveside.

The church we once were all part of has much to answer for. But I would not leave the issue there. Instead, perhaps this series of sonnets by C.S. Lewis will offer something.

FIVE SONNETS

1

You think that we who do not shout and shake
Our fists at God when youth or bravery die
Have colder blood or hearts less apt to ache
Than yours who rail. I know you do. Yet why?
You have what sorrow always longs to find,
Someone to blame, some enemy in chief;
Anger's the anaesthetic of the mind,
It does men good, it fumes away their grief.
We feel the stroke like you; so far our fate
Is equal. After that, for us begin
Half-hopeless labours, learning not to hate,
And then to want, and then (perhaps) to win
A high, unearthly comfort, angel's food,
That seems at first mockery to flesh and blood.

2

There's a repose, a safety (even a taste
Of something like revenge?) in fixed despair
Which we're forbidden. We have to rise with haste
And start to climb what seems a crazy stair.
Our consolation (for we are consoled,
So much of us, I mean, as may be left
After the dreadful process has unrolled)
For our breavement makes us more bereft.
It asks for all we have, to the last shred;
Read Dante, who had known its best and worst --
He was bereaved and he was comforted
-- No one denies it, comforted -- but first
Down to the frozen centre, up the vast
Mountain of pain, from world to world, he passed.

3

Of this we're certain; no one who dared knock
At heaven's door for earthly comfort found
Even a door -- only smooth, endless rock,
And save the echo of his cry no sound.
It's dangerous to listen; you'll begin
To fancy that those echoes (hope can play
Pitiful tricks) are answers from within;
Far better to turn, grimly sane, away.
Heaven cannot thus, Earth cannot ever, give
The thing we want. We ask what isn't there
And by our asking water and make live
That very part of love which must despair
And die and go down cold into the earth
Before there's talk of springtime and re-birth.

4

Pitch your demands heaven-high and they'll be met.
Ask for the Morning Star and take (thrown in)
Your earthly love. Why, yes; but how to set
One's foot on the first rung, how to begin?
The silence of one voice upon our ears
Beats like the waves; the coloured morning seems
A lying brag; the face we loved appears
Fainter each night, or ghastlier, in our dreams.
'That long way round which Dante trod was meant
For mighty saints and mystics not for me,'
So Nature cries. Yet if we once assent
To Nature's voice, we shall be like the bee
That booms against the window-pane for hours
Thinking that way to reach the laden flowers.

5

'If we could speak to her,' my doctor said,
'And told her, "Not that way! All, all in vain
You weary out your wings and bruise your head,"
Might she not answer, buzzing at the pane,
"Let queens and mystics and religious bees
Talk of such inconceivables as glass;
The blunt lay worker flies at what she sees,
Look there -- ahead, ahead -- the flowers, the grass!"
We catch her in a handkerchief (who knows
What rage she feels, what terror, what despair?)
And shake her out -- and gaily out she goes
Where quivering flowers stand thick in summer air,
To drink their hearts. But left to her own will
She would have died upon the window-sill.'
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