That was knocked out of me in my doctoral studies. I had explained to me, by those who know what they're talking about, that under the ascendant intellectual paradigm known as Critical Theory (and its associated labels in many disciplines) that all groups in society are in constant conflict over all the resources of society. Those resources include not only power, status, wealth, access to information, and so on, but also the definitions of important words. To those who follow Critical Theory, there is no "truth," there is only your truth and my truth; and if I can make you use my words and phrase everything in terms of my truth, I'm halfway to winning regardless of what you do, so good for me.
Critical Theory is also sometimes called Neo-Marxism. It talks about false consciousness and all that. It's a sociology rooted in leftist ideology. And the people who believe it, practice it. When the professor who explained all this to me saw me reading a book written by someone on the "other side," he immediately dropped all personal contact with me, for there is to be no fraternization with the enemy. I was gobsmacked.
All of which is to say that I learned that no matter how smart, how sensitive, how careful you are, some people just will not understand you, because to understand you would betray their "side." They mean it. And they're not going to change.
My education continued as I went on to read and re-revaluate what I knew of movements in the present and past. I realized -- especially with Jonah Goldberg's help -- that leftist ideology comes in many forms. Those forms don't always get along with each other, but all of them follow the same path to their goals, they share the same critique of society, and they have no energy to spare trying to understand other points of view. Leftist ideology became Communism in Russia; it became Socialism in many other European countries; it became Nazism in Germany; it became Fascism in Italy; and -- here's the kicker -- it became Progressivism in the United States.
Progressivism, which has now taken over the Democratic Party*, is a leftist ideology. It looks to create a condition of "social justice," which is a kind of secular millennium. Only the state can do this, it believes, so the state must be transformed and all other institutions brought into line with state policy. Progressives see themselves as a revolutionary vanguard who will give direction to that society. The fact that every society so organized has wrecked itself is of no consequence; they believe in despite of the evidence that this time it surely must work. When they are tasked with the ruin they habitually sponsor, they insist that they be judged only on their intentions, which were pure, and not their achievements, which were unjust in all their effects. They are a public menace. And dear God, there are far more of them than ever before.
This explains the blind fury that has exploded over the internet in the wake of the Hobby Lobby decision. Those of you who complain of reeling under the onslaught of vitriol need to understand that those of your friends who believe in this ideology have no interest in understanding where you're coming from; to do so would be a betrayal of the right side of history, which they believe themselves to be on. They have quite literally formed their minds into a shape that will not hold the thoughts you share; their ears can only hear you gibbering hate-speech.
A few, a very few who love you, may tolerate your thoughts. For a while. But you cannot make them understand; their cure is not in your power. So stand up for what you believe and open your minds to those whose minds are still open. Be courteous, but be firm. Maintaining civil society and sane government and freedom from oppression is up to you and those others who haven't drunk the kool-aid yet.
*There are, of course, Democrats who are not progressives, but they are increasingly alienated from their party. Those who remain try to adjust themselves to the reality and earn the respect of the radicals who are running the show. Poor guys; they don't realize that in leftist ideology, fellow-travelers are looked down on as dupes, not welcomed as comrades.