aefenglommung (aefenglommung) wrote,

In need of re-gruntling

I'm a tired blogger today. There is so much weirdness on the interwebs, so many people who are fanatically sure they are right. Interacting with them on only a tiny sliver of subjects, as I do, is nevertheless enervating.

As a pastor, I deal with a lot of contentious or painful subjects. I preach about them. I counsel with people about them. When I turn to the internet, I post and respond about them. It's part of the gig. After a while, though, you feel like you've been rolled in barbed wire.

What I've learned is, in order to deal with angry and disagreeable people, you've got to have a peace that they can't take away from you. You can't make the world right, so don't become dependent for your happiness on winning the argument. Angry and disagreeable people do not concede arguments. You've got to be able to make your case, then go off and enjoy yourself.

Which just means that if you are not happy in yourself and in your home, then dealing with others will just magnify your unhappiness. Cultivating rightness in your soul and in your personal relationships, getting enough rest, and doing things that give you joy are not options, they are necessities. Without them, you become another angry and disagreeable person and cannot make any kind of worthwhile difference in the world.

The people with whom you do agree, or who at least understand where you're coming from and like you anyway, are very important. They help keep you sane. I wish I had more time to spend with the ones who keep me sane, but life is very busy. Which just makes my friends and loved ones even more important.

I can't tell you how much I look forward to spending time with you.

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